Let's Get Off Together

The prostate. The 'male g spot' if you will. It seems to me that you either love it or hate it.

I'm going to be honest, this is one area that I don't have any expertise in. Don't get me wrong, I like to think of myself as an open person, but this is just not my thing. However, it is still something that should be able to be discussed, however uncomfortable it may be. I don't know about you, but whenever there is something that I don't know much about, I turn to Wikipedia. Now, armed with information posted by various "experts" from around the world, we begin.

Prostrate stimulation is constantly viewed in a negative light, mainly because people don't know much about it and our society would much rather ridicule that which we do not understand than learn about it.

Most people aren't too excited about anything that has to do with the anus and then when they are exposed to it, say in movies, it again has negative connotations. For example, off the top of my head I can think of three movies that make it seem undesirable by portraying it with the goofy characters people aren't meant to take seriously. "Road Trip", "Me, Myself and Irene" and "Good Luck Chuck" all have a character who prefers or needs prostate stimulation to achieve orgasm, using a gloved finger, a dildo and a scrub brush, respectively. Scenes like these ruin anal for the rest of us. Most people have a negative or dirty opinion of anal stimulation that is unlikely to change.

However, anal stimulation is quite common, even in heterosexual relationships world-wide.

Not all males like anal stimulation, but most do if they give it a chance and leave all of the stereotypes at the door. Anal stimulation does not make you gay or bisexual. Instead it probably means you are quite comfortable with your body and yourself.

Simply put, some males like anal stimulation because the nerves around the anus are the same ones in the penis, or they go to the same place, essentially. Therefore, stimulating one set will enhances the stimulation or feeling in the other. Which also brings up an interesting side note: females can also intensify their partners orgasm by grabbing his toes right before he is about to climax (best achieved with woman on top facing away), because the nerves in the toes are directly connected to those in the penis.

Prostate stimulation isn't necessarily a new phenomenon either. Even as far back as the beginning of the 20th century, there were products sold for wives to stimulate their husbands during intercourse. Nowadays these same products can be found, in a multitude of variations, from vibrators to butt plugs to beads on a string.

I was even able to find some information stating that during the second world war, medics would massage a soldiers prostate if he hadn't been with a girl for a few months, to treat their 'pelvic congestion'.

And stop sweating, prostate stimulation does not have to be such a horrifying experience. If it is something that you or your partner want to try, it is always best to talk about it. I know I have said this before, but talking to your partner about each others' sexual needs is one of the best things you can do for your relationship. That being said, one of the worst things you can do, and this applies to both guys and girls, is to surprise your partner and 'slip it in.'? Bad call.

If you decided that prostate stimulation is something that you would like to try, do your research first and experiment. I've been told that some people like it with just a finger (with a condom and a little bit of lube). Others may be more adventurous and may try the gamet of anal stimulation, leading all the way to (the far extreme in my opinion) a strap-on dildo and of course, some good-old fashioned role reversal. Whatever you decide, just make sure to be safe and have fun.•