2008 Woodie Awards
Let's Get Off Together
Justin Briley
Issue date: 2/8/08 Section: Post
Something that I think many people take for granted is, believe it or not, just having sex. It seems that people have sex just because they can. I mean, honestly, how many times when you have sex, do you just go for the classic missionary or person-on-top positions? The more exotic 'doggy style' seems to be reserved only for special occasions. Admittedly some situations might be a little rushed, or cramped, or whatever, but for just your regular - run of the mill sex, you should probably shake things up a bit.
I think that if you have a partner, whether it's just for the sex, or if you are in a committed relationship, that you should constantly try new things all the time. Have you and your partner ever sat down together and looked over the Kama Sutra to get new ideas for positions? And if you do not have the Kama Sutra you can use the internet. There is quite a wealth of information available on the internet that may help make things more interesting, but also for you to have more fun as well.
If reading the Kama Sutra, looking on the internet or exploring is not your thing or you don't feel comfortable, then you should still talk about sex with your partner. I know that talking about sex in general may be awkward. I know that talking about sex to your partner might be even more uncomfortable, but is worth it. Talk about positions, what gets you off, what you like and what you do not like.
How do you two feel the introduction of sex toys?
Explore. Maybe a certain kind of porn helps, get you in the mood? Have you even watched a porn with someone else, a partner, not only for your own enjoyment? If you aren't into watching porn, you might want to try just listening to it. It may not be the sight of sex, but more the sounds that turns you on.
A new position perhaps? The aforementioned 'doggy style' may be popular and pleasurable, next time try it with you both lying down. There isn't as much movement, but a more intense sensation.
Perhaps you should try taking pictures with your partner. A camera phone with the ability to capture video can go a long way, allowing you to view yourselves in ways you've only seen on the internet. Whatever works for you, it is in your own best interest to explore all the options available to you, but remember be mindful of your partner and both of your limits.
One thing that still amazes me is how many girls have never had an orgasm, either at all, or from anyone but themselves. Not to mention how many girls have never had multiple orgasms. I would be willing to bet that is because we don't talk about sex.
So turn the lights down low, quietly turn on Barry White and have a chat with your significant other. It can only make the sex and your relationship better.
I think that if you have a partner, whether it's just for the sex, or if you are in a committed relationship, that you should constantly try new things all the time. Have you and your partner ever sat down together and looked over the Kama Sutra to get new ideas for positions? And if you do not have the Kama Sutra you can use the internet. There is quite a wealth of information available on the internet that may help make things more interesting, but also for you to have more fun as well.
If reading the Kama Sutra, looking on the internet or exploring is not your thing or you don't feel comfortable, then you should still talk about sex with your partner. I know that talking about sex in general may be awkward. I know that talking about sex to your partner might be even more uncomfortable, but is worth it. Talk about positions, what gets you off, what you like and what you do not like.
How do you two feel the introduction of sex toys?
Explore. Maybe a certain kind of porn helps, get you in the mood? Have you even watched a porn with someone else, a partner, not only for your own enjoyment? If you aren't into watching porn, you might want to try just listening to it. It may not be the sight of sex, but more the sounds that turns you on.
A new position perhaps? The aforementioned 'doggy style' may be popular and pleasurable, next time try it with you both lying down. There isn't as much movement, but a more intense sensation.
Perhaps you should try taking pictures with your partner. A camera phone with the ability to capture video can go a long way, allowing you to view yourselves in ways you've only seen on the internet. Whatever works for you, it is in your own best interest to explore all the options available to you, but remember be mindful of your partner and both of your limits.
One thing that still amazes me is how many girls have never had an orgasm, either at all, or from anyone but themselves. Not to mention how many girls have never had multiple orgasms. I would be willing to bet that is because we don't talk about sex.
So turn the lights down low, quietly turn on Barry White and have a chat with your significant other. It can only make the sex and your relationship better.
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